What if I told you that there is a way for you to get your
ex girlfriend back? It may take some patience and effort, but so does anything worth
fighting for. Below I will outline the exact steps you should take to get your
girlfriend back.
The No Contact Rule
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First, you should resist all efforts to contact her at this stage.
Don’t call, text or email her. I know this is hard, but the state of mind you
are in right now will only make your attempts to contact her come across as
pathetic and desperate.
In the event that you can’t control yourself and you just
HAVE to reach out to her, by all means do this with extreme care. In addition,
I suggest texting over calling. Why? Because you can say some pretty stupid
things in a phone call that would likely turn her off and push her further
away.
Alternatively, with texting, you can take your time to craft
just the right message and send it ONLY when it’s perfect and certain to bring
her closer to you, rather than push her further away.
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This resource comes with numerous copy-and-paste text messages that have been proven to elicit the right response to bring your ex
girlfriend closer to you, rather than push her away. The more desperate, angry
or anxious you are feeling, the more you should rely on a proven text messages that
have been proven to get positive results. In other words, well researched
phrases are going to get you what you want, much better than what you are
likely to text in desperation.
The wrong text, the pushy, needy or desperate one, could
push her away beyond repair. The perfectly crafted text could satisfy your
desire to reach out to her while at the same time increasing your chances of
eventually getting her back.
What Do You Do In The Meantime?
That’s enough about the “no contact rule”. However, while we
are giving our ex girlfriend the time she needs to come around, there’s no need
to waste our time twiddling our thumbs. There are steps you can take to improve
yourself so that when she is ready to come back, you have made some progress on
your own flaws that likely drove her away in the first place.
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The first thing you have to accept right now is that you are
not perfect. You have flaws. And, one or more of those flaws likely contributed
to your break up. So, instead of moping around and feeling sorry for yourself,
you are going to use this time to identify your most serious character flaws
and start to improve yourself and make yourself more attractive to your ex
girlfriend.
Now is not the time to focus on her problems and
shortcomings and what she needs to do to improve. That’s on her. Something
about YOU drove her away. What was it? Was it some character flaw? Identify it
and start improving yourself. She will be so impressed with your improvement
that she will want to have you back.
The best way to go about this is to look for low-hanging
fruit. There are four behavior flaws that relationship expert Dr. John Gottman
has identified as being the main indicators that a relationship is going to
fail. As we look at each of these character flaws, remember that you should
only be concerned with you. It is not your concern if your ex girlfriend
contains one or more of these flaws. This is not about her right now. It’s
about you. Moreover, if your ex does possess any of these flaws, and you start
calling or texting her to tell her so, you are only going to drive her further away.
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So, what are these character flaws? I’m going to lay them
out as simply as possible so you can get to work right away on making
improvements.
The four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Criticism
Where you in the habit of criticizing your ex-girlfriend?
Constantly criticizing your partner is a relationship killer. In order to
improve in this area you want to start training yourself to praise instead of
criticize. You will obviously have the urge to criticize. When that urge
arises, do your best to fight it and don’t let it surface. Alternatively, you
want to start training yourself to actively look for the positive qualities in
your ex-girlfriend that you can verbally praise her for. She will love it!
Defensiveness
Do you have a tendency to get defensive when your
ex-girlfriend criticized you? If so, this is another area where you can improve.
Rather than reacting defensively to criticism, respond by expressing that criticism
isn’t helpful to solving the problem and that it only makes you feel defensive.
Repeat this over and over again each time you are criticized so that slowly,
she can begin to understand that her behavior is unacceptable.
Contempt
Contempt is where you put yourself on a pedestal as someone
who is intrinsically better than the other.
It’s important that you try to recognize if you are guilty
of this and then go about changing it right away.
Stonewalling
Stonewalling is when you feel so overwhelmed during
confrontation that you just shut down and withdraw, refusing to participate in
the problem-solving process.
Conclusion
Don’t brush over these bad habits. It has been
scientifically established these four habits are the most responsible for
relationship failures. And if these are the worst habits, then their opposites
must be the habits that are most likely to make a relationship successful.
Therefore, instead of being critical, praise your partner.
Instead of being defensive, repeatedly state that the criticism you are
receiving is not helping to solving the problem. Instead of feeling contempt,
work on regarding your partner as an equal. And finally, instead of
stonewalling, repeatedly remind your partner that the way they go about solving
problems is pushing you away and causing you to withdraw.
I hope you have found this information useful. Please take a
look at the other articles on the site to further help you in successfully
repairing your relationship with your girlfriend.
I wish you the best of luck.
